“Our prayers should be for blessings in general, for God knows best what is good for us.” —Socrates
The word blessing is defined in the Oxford English Dictionary as “a beneficial thing for which one is grateful; something that brings well-being.” In other words, one who is blessed knows they have received something special—they know they are loved. Blessings are important and happen in a myriad of ways.
“I will bless you; I will make your name great.” —Genesis 12:1–2
In the midst of a contentious American election season, a hurricane ravaged Haiti, an unprecedented civil war in Syria, and a global refugee crisis, what is the role of spiritual direction? How can a ministry and service devoted to contemplation relieve the suffering of so many all over the world?
Stuck in a waiting room recently, flipping through an outdated magazine, I landed on a follow up interview with the adult daughters of a popular reality TV family. These women's lives exploded in a very public way last year when their oldest brother's past sexual abuse of them and several other young girls hit the news. I grew up on the outskirts of the family's extremely conservative community, where large families and submissive women are lauded as key to God's plan for his children's lives. Such a public failure in a family who has been the face of a movement for years has sent shock waves through the community. Facades have crumbled as many begin to tell their own stories of abuse at the hands of conservative church or family members, and the systemic failure to address these abuses has become clear.
I have been blessed with many Jewish friends who have kindly invited me to the rituals associated with the Jewish High Holy Days, and educated me as to their profound significance.
Beginning with Rosh Hashanah (or Yom Teruah), a day when judgements are written into the Divine Book of that purpose, followed ten days later by Yom Kippur, a day when those judgements are “sealed,” this time is always one of intense reflection for me.
It seems rather easy, almost effortless, to receive and experience peace when in a tranquil setting. When surrounded by the beauty of nature, or standing on a mountain top looking down at passersby, it can be so much easier to let go and release the concerns that can bear down on us.
There is a hymn I find solace in titled, “Peace is Flowing Like a River.” While that is mostly true, there are times when it is not—times when someone or something becomes an obstacle or intrusion to our harmony … times when we allow external things to form a dam and block the flow.
On sunny days, the Hudson River sparkles with light. I walk along the rocky shore, filled with an abiding sense of peace and harmony.
My eight-year-old daughter skips ahead, collecting beach glass. She returns to fill my jacket pockets with smooth pieces of various shapes and colors. These shards of glass have been tumbled and abraded by the brackish waters, transformed into lovely objects by the sand and salty tide.
A few years ago, when I was visiting Istanbul, Turkey, I stood in the middle of Hagias Sophia (Holy Wisdom or Divine Wisdom), the most important byzantine structure and one of the world’s greatest monuments. Built in the sixth century, it was a place of Christian worship for nearly a millennia and is a profound tribute to wisdom. Wisdom indeed is something to be honoured.
“I, wisdom, dwell with prudence, and I find knowledge and discretion” —Proverbs 8:12
The statistics on the value of rest are indisputable. According to the Center for the American Dream, if you work over eleven hours each day, you are two-and-a-half times more likely to develop depression, and have a sixty percent higher risk of heart-related illness. Overworked Americans have more health issues related to obesity, a weakened immune system, poor sleep quality, and joint pain.