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Welcome to the February issue of “Membership Moments,” the monthly e-newsletter from Spiritual Directors International.

Trust the Love in Heartache


Sometimes my heart aches. I need to cry, yet I can’t access the tears welling up behind my eyes and surrounding my heart. I know a deep cry would help me connect with God, yet I can’t remember how.

I had one of those experiences during the Parliament of the World’s Religions in December. Presence editorial review panelist, Jack Stuart graciously drove me many miles north of Melbourne, Australia to visit SDI member, Diana Cherry, who survived the devastating bushfires of Black Saturday (February 7, 2009). Scores of people died. Only seven homes remain in Diana’s community where hundreds of families used to live. Diana and her husband Ed told the story of the roaring fire that swallowed up their community. In the aftermath of horrific tragedy, they are--one day at a time--spiritually companioning their devastated community through death into life. 

My heart ached when Diana took us to a ridge lookout. We saw charred forests and burnt homes for many kilometres in every direction. Peculiar, rotting smells of death entered my nose and heart. A sooty black picnic table where friends once shared laughter entered my sight and soul. An uneasy silence entered my ears and hung in the air where brilliantly colored parrots and bright-white cockatoos normally would be heard squawking in the treetops.

“Forgive us for we know not what we do,” I prayed to the trees with my broken heart. I tried to pray for the arsonist who ignited the fires, and quickly realized I was too sad and in shock to pray for the perpetrator. How could someone do this to the helpless neighbors of Diana and Ed, including the powerless trees, wombats, wallabies, koalas, and lyrebirds that they dearly love? Inaccessible tears pooled behind my eyes.

As we left the ridge, I noticed stringy, peeling bark in a grove of scorched gum trees. Grateful to be with fellow spiritual companions, we paused together to watch the long strands of hanging bark gently blow in the wind. The trees were shedding their layers of protection, trusting that new bark would grow. Their compassion was palpable, each tree being present to the other, teaching me to trust the love in heartache and loss, bringing my tears closer to the surface.

Dead bark quietly and tenderly wafted in the wind, reminding me of Tibetan prayer flags, sending blessings on the breeze. In that moment, my heart opened to the love, resilience, and grace of the gum trees, reconnecting me to the cycle of life. Together we listened to the prayers of the trees, and the trees listened to our prayers, dissolving in the wind, filling all spaces with an eternal love found in the gift of communal heartache and tears.

How do you listen with compassion to the heartache and gift of tears of your own life and the lives of people you accompany in spiritual direction? Especially after the recent devastating earthquake in Haiti, how are you caring for your sensitive heart and journeying with others who may be struggling to make meaning in the aftershocks of heart-wrenching destruction?

In the comments section on the blog, please share your thoughts.

Spiritual Directors International is educating the public about listening with compassion, around the world and across traditions. Check out the blog, Facebook, or Twitter to see where.

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4.  New Videos in the “Spiritual Directors International Learns From…” series!

5.  Twentieth Anniversary Presence Reader Survey

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9.  February reflection by poet Kimberly L. Becker

10.  February blessing from the Executive Director

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2.  Are you an author or musician who wants to share your gifts with the world?

Are you an author or musician who will attend “Gratefulness: The Heart of Spiritual Care” in San Francisco, California, USA? YES? Then please participate in the public book signing celebration on Thursday, April 8, 2010 to celebrate you and share your books and music with our contemplative learning community and local seekers. You need to RSVP no later than February 15, 2010 to have your books and CD’s included in the bookstore.

HOW? After you have registered, please contact Pegge Bernecker, reviews(at)sdiworld.org for more information about how to participate in the evening events. Or simply RSVP using this online link. You will be asked to provide your book title, publisher contact, and ISBN number, or CD, or DVD information. All presenters and attendees need to RSVP no later than February 15, 2010.

Everyone is invited to meet the talented and creative authors and musicians attending the 2010 educational events, and greet other conference participants. The bookstore will be open for book signings and browsing, and the Thursday evening, April 8 program is FREE for friends, family, and the general public! Plan on bringing your friends, family, and colleagues to meet authors and musicians who have registered for the conference.

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3.  Check out the newest book in SDI’s imprint series!

 

Spiritual Directors International publishes excellent new book in our imprint series!

New in 2010: Awakening the Creative Spirit: Bringing the Arts to Spiritual Direction by Spiritual Directors International members Betsey Beckman and Christine Valters Paintner. Available February1, 2010, or preorder today!
SDI has been cultivating excellent spiritual direction resources through the Spiritual Directors International Imprint series since 2003.

Do you know a good book for spiritual directors? To learn where to send your book or other media for potential review in a Spiritual Directors International publication, please e-mail Pegge Bernecker, Media Review Editor. reviews [at] sdiworld.org. All review materials from members or publicists should be mailed directly to her in Alaska, USA.

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4.  New Videos in the “Spiritual Directors International Learns From…” series!

With the addition of THREE new educational videos you now have FREE access to more than fifteen short videos that will help you tell the story of spiritual direction, which is also known as spiritual companionship, spiritual guidance, and spiritual accompaniment.

Please share these YouTube videos when you teach, via your workshops and online resource links, and with seekers. We welcome these three new additions:
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5.  Twentieth Anniversary Presence Reader Survey

 

During this twentieth anniversary year, we’d like to hear from all the members of Spiritual Directors International about what you love about Presence. Please follow this link to share your thoughts.  Password is:  anniversary

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6.  The Best of the Spiritual Directors International BLOG!

Engage. Learn. Reflect. Respond … visit the Spiritual Directors International BLOG! Find it from the homepage, www.sdiworld.org and add your comments throughout the month. Read others’ comments. Perhaps one of these recent posts might intrigue you!

"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too heavy a burden to bear."

Watch "Clerics Seek Peace through Humor, Dialogue" with Pastor Don Mackenzie, Rabbi Ted Falcon, and Imam Jamal Rahman

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9.  February reflection by poet Kimberly L. Becker

This poem won an honorable mention in the 2009-2010 Presence poetry contest.

An Askesis against Acedia, or: Walking the Dog with Intention

As a discipline
against depression
I fall back on naming
ten good things:

My dog’s breath as I walk her. Mine.
Tornado-less sky.
Earth without sinkhole or quake.
(Does that make four or five?)
Ragged oak leaves the color of tobacco.
Mockingbird flying down to say hello.
Blood quickening towards snow.
Pewter clouds (even plain old gray).
Pink ascending contrail.
Mind that can still process.
(Is that ten or a bonus?)

Bonus is good.

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10.  February blessing from the Executive Director

Look for love in unusual places this February, even in the pain of tragic loss. Cultivate compassion and gratefulness “as a discipline against depression.” As a bonus, invite the people you spiritually accompany to do likewise, so that love, compassion, and gratefulness may flourish in your hearts and communities.

Peace be with you,
Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv


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