Surprised by Love
During October 2013, my father-in-law died. You need to know a little bit about the family in order for my story to make sense. We called him Norb; his full name is Norbert, not a common name today. He proudly served as a weatherman in World War II.
Norb died in southern California in the home that he bought with my mother-in-law Mary almost sixty years ago. Norb enjoyed tending his roses in their backyard, and Mary continues to grow pretty pink and purple flowers behind their bungalow despite the severe drought that has plagued California. During our weekly telephone chats with Mary, we often hear updates about the drought and the conditions of the flowerbeds.
6 September would have been Norb’s ninety-seventh birthday. It was the first birthday since he died, and we didn’t want Mary to be alone on this important day. True to form, and proving he is well, Norb orchestrated things perfectly. He held his birthday on a Saturday so Marc, Susie, and the grandkids could visit Mary. Norb arranged for Marc’s favorite football team, Notre Dame, to win that day. But most impressively, Norb, the weatherman, whipped up a hurricane off the coast of Mexico (yes, Hurricane Norbert, landed on his birthday) causing big waves on Saturday, and then lots of rain to water all the flowers throughout southern California that week.
As usual, Norb left us all laughing and telling stories about how things don’t always appear to be what they seem on the surface. Here we were, missing him terribly and worried about Mary and her potential heartache on Norb’s birthday, yet the overriding experience was one of awe and wonder at how love dances across the border between life and death. Our God is awesome!
In the Jewish tradition, October holds Days of Awe as the Jewish New Year begins. The rituals include community-building processes and spiritual practices that are familiar in spiritual direction. Millions of Jews are encouraged during this time of year to pause, to reflect, to seek forgiveness, to fast, to offer alms, and to realign their relationship with God and one another.
In solidarity with our Jewish brothers and sisters, October is a beautiful month to reassess our relationship with the divine, with awe, and with one another. Here are some questions to ponder during the month.
How you are in relationship with love and with awe? When was the last time you were surprised by the divine? What’s one step that you might take to release a barrier to God’s loving presence in your life? Share your thoughts on the SDI Blog.
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Pastoral Counseling and Spiritual Direction: Convergence and Divergence Conference
Did you know that SDI offers online educational opportunities with CEU credit? Are you looking to explore and learn about new topics from the comfort of your own home or office? Register now for two upcoming SDI Webinars.
The Enneagram and the Beatitudes: Understanding the Blessings of Who You Are, led by Joseph Byrd, OLF, DMin, from Michigan, USA.
28 October, 1:00 p.m. EDT; 5:00 p.m. GMT/UTC
28 October, 8:00 p.m. EDT; 12:00 a.m. GMT/UTC (following morning, 29 October)
The Case for Spiritual Direction in the Technology Age led by Christianne Squires, MA, MS, from Florida, USA.
19 November, 1:00 p.m. EST; 5:00 p.m. GMT/UTC
19 November, 8:00 p.m. EST; 1:00 a.m. GMT/UTC (following morning, 20 November)
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Registration is now open for the Emerging Wisdom educational events, and you won’t want to miss a moment of it! Your presence, engagement, and insights are what will make our time together enriching and memorable.
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Spiritual Directors International is an inclusive, global learning community that offers educational programming and materials around the world and across traditions. In order to serve our international community, we now have the Guidelines for Ethical Conduct available in Korean as a free download from the SDI website.
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Marilyn Lacey, RSM, is executive director of Mercy Beyond Borders, author of This Flowing Toward Me, and was a lifelong friend of SDI founding member Sr. Mary Ann Scofield, RSM. Lacey was personally honored by the Dalai Lama as an "Unsung Hero of Compassion" and holds a master in social work and three honorary doctorates. She lives in Menlo Park, California, USA, and works in South Sudan and Haiti.
Susan Rakoczy, IHM, is professor of Christian spirituality and systematic theology at St. Joseph’s Theological Institute and the School of Religion, Philosophy, and Ethics at the University of KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. She has led courses in spiritual direction for many years and has a special research focus on spiritual direction and HIV/AIDS. Rakoczy has written widely in the areas of cross-cultural spiritual direction, spirituality and social justice, feminist theology, and eco-feminism, and is writing a book on feminist interpretations of discernment.
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it is as if the forest lasts forever—
everything that needs to be lifted
gradually descends here,
through the woods hangs silent—
the shape of branch it fell from,
keeping soft and green
a small resting place beneath
so what used to be survives.
May the divine surprise you with love in October. May what you dread most turn out to be another lesson in learning new ways of seeing. May your heart and soul’s attention return to God’s light, and may your shadows learn to dance.
Peace be with you,
Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv
Pastoral Counseling and Spiritual Direction: Convergence and Divergence Conference November 7–8, in Williamstown, Massachusetts. Presenter is Colleen Sharka, SDI member, spiritual director and psychotherapist. A panel of spiritual directors and pastoral counselors will be facilitated by SDI member, Carol Fournier. Sponsored by American Association of Pastoral Counselors Eastern/Northeast Regions. CEU’s are available. For more details and brochure contact Anne Ierardi – email@example.com or 508-375-0918.