Portrait of a Spiritual Director
In 2017-2018, Spiritual Directors International brought together a task force to create “A Portrait of a Spiritual Director” and its sister document "5 Principles of Spiritual Direction Training Programs."
Both documents are published as resources for all those who teach, learn and practice spiritual direction and for every seeker on the planet.
SDI plans to publish a printed brochure of both the Portrait and the 5 Principles in the near future.
Spiritual Directors International recognizes that cultural and environmental factors may require this "Portrait" to be contextualized. SDI encourages everyone in our community to discern on what is written here and if so moved, respond in writing to SDI. Reflection and review of this document will be ongoing. Suggested revisions are welcome and may be directed to firstname.lastname@example.org at any time.
Spiritual Directors International
Spiritual Directors International is an educational nonprofit. It serves 6,000-plus members from forty two countries around the world by creating a learning community devoted to the contemplative practice of spiritual direction or companionship. SDI creates guidelines for practice, educates and supports the community but does not accredit or certify individual spiritual directors or companions.
Principles Task Force 2018:
Spiritual Directors International wishes to express its deep appreciation to the following people who served on the Portrait and Principles Task Force. These guidelines are only available to our international community because of their efforts:
Lucy Abbott Tucker, Co-chair
Christine Luna Munger, Co-chair
Anil Singh-Molares, SDI Executive Director
Steven Crandell, SDI Director of Content
A Portrait of a Spiritual Director
Spiritual directors or companions support the unique spiritual journey of every individual. They are welcoming and present with those they companion, listening and responding without being judgmental. They are contemplative and honor silence as a spiritual practice. They are intuitive spiritual friends — accountable and compassionate, hospitable and open, loving yet independent.
Spiritual direction or companionship inspires people to experience authenticity in their lives as they connect with and explore the ground of all being, that deepest of truths which is beyond life and death and goes by many names, including God, and no name at all.
Inclusive ~ Genuine ~ Listening ~ Accepting ~ Contemplative ~ Wise
Abilities and Gifts
A spiritual director is called
- The natural gifts of a spiritual director may include: discernment; guiding others in prayer and silence; ability to note and draw attention to the significant insights and sensed movements arising in the directee; capacity for depth and breadth; acknowledgement of spiritual freedom; grounding in stability; interpersonal rapport; the ability to meet a directee where they are and hold a safe space for them and their spiritual exploration.
- Others recognize the director’s inherent qualities, such as: accountability, wisdom; gentleness; compassion; maturity; caring; prayerfulness; traveling a recognizable spiritual journey; personal integration; openness to self, others and the transcendent. A spiritual director is sought out and confirmed by others.
- Honors contemplative connection: Directors seek to connect others with the deepest of truths; to support the spiritual transformation of self, others and the world; to embrace holism by integrating mind, body, will and spirit.
Skills and Knowledge
A spiritual director has training or experience
- Listens deeply: noticing, tracking, distinguishing, prioritizing, paraphrasing, waiting, probing, challenging and disclosing—always to serve the directee and the spiritual direction relationship.
- Maintains an inner life practice: including prayer or other contemplative practice, reflection, deepening self-awareness, and familiarity with personal gifts, limitations, and wounds, recognizing that all these affect the spiritual direction relationship.
- Honors healthy interpersonal boundaries: understanding when and how to make appropriate referrals; acknowledging assumptions and personal biases and recognizing when those get in the way of the spiritual direction and recognizes and avoids dual relationships.
- Exhibits habits of self-care and care for others, including careful attention to SDI’s Guidelines for Ethical Conduct.
A spiritual director is competent
- Honors confidentiality of directees in accordance with the Guidelines for Ethical Conduct.
- Distinguishes between psychology and spirituality and recognizes the limits of personal knowledge and experience which might indicate the need to refer to another professional.
- Recognizes varied states in directees, including mental, emotional, physical, spiritual states; noticing shifts in spiritual movements, affective moods, cognitive states; naming personal triggers, hooks, wounds.
- Considers ongoing learning part of the calling, including study of various faith or wisdom traditions and orientations, sacred texts, and exemplars of faith; a spiritual director is open to insights from other professional disciplines, and the dynamics in psycho-socio-cultural integration.
Accountability and Integrity
A spiritual director is authentic
- Attends regular spiritual direction for self
- Receives supervision by peers and teachers—and is responsible for her or his work through that direct supervision
- Shows respect for the agency of directees—that is, the capacity of individuals to act independently and make their own free choices
- Follows universal ethical guidelines, summarized as “Do no harm”
- Finds support and is accountable in a community setting.
- Inspires others to explore and embrace: trustworthiness; vulnerability; openness; courage; faith; integrity; transformation
- Integrates values into daily life, such as: nonjudgment, inclusion, contemplation, compassion and service for the common good
Terms of Reverence
Spiritual directors may name the deepest of truths in diverse ways. They also honor the names that others revere.
Here are some of those terms of reverence:
Universe, God, Lord, Allah, YHWH, Great Spirit, Higher Power, Mystery, Sunyata, Brahman, Tao, Divine, Sacred, Holy, Almighty, Ultimate, the Beyond, Intimate, Abba, Nirvana, Wisdom, Source, Vishnu, Creator, Enlightenment, Interconnection, Holy One, All.
A spiritual director may identify by many different names:
Director, Companion, Elder, Guide, Teacher, Master, Friend, Anam Cara, Guru, Mashpia, Murshid