What is Spiritual Direction/Companionship?
What is a Spiritual Companion/ Spiritual Director?
Spiritual companions support people on their spiritual journeys through life.
Spiritual companions are welcoming and present with those they companion, listening and responding without being judgmental.
Spiritual companions are contemplative and honor silence as a spiritual practice.
Spiritual companions recognize the agency of the people they companion.
Spiritual companions are intuitive spiritual friends — accountable and compassionate, hospitable and open, loving yet independent.
What is Spiritual Companionship?
Spiritual direction or companionship inspires people to experience authenticity in their lives as they connect with and explore the ground of all being, that deepest of truths which is beyond life and death and goes by many names, including God, and no name at all.
Inclusive ~ Genuine ~ Listening ~ Accepting ~ Contemplative ~ Wise
Why Work with a Spiritual Companion?
- They offer deep listening which helps people find and follow their own spiritual path
- They ask insightful, open-ended questions that help people connect with their authentic selves
- They allow space for stillness and silence (contemplation) to help people become aware of what is deep within them
- They build trust and openness by being authentic, kind and open themselves
- They do not proselytize, nor seek to influence or convince, but instead walk alongside people as they make their individual and unique spiritual journeys
- They honor the free will and discernment of each human being, especially in spiritual matters
- They offer a mirror to those they companion so they may see themselves as whole beings if they so choose
- They help the people they accompany create a stronger relationship with self and others and God, or however they refer to the ground of all being.
Who Is a Spiritual Companion?
“Spiritual companion” is an inclusive term which includes:
- Spiritual directors
- Some clergy, Sangha, Rabbis, Imams and other people who offer companionship and wisdom
- Life or Soul Coaches
- Social Workers
- Healing professionals
- Others who offer listening care
"Spiritual direction - also called spiritual companionship - explores a deeper relationship with the spiritual aspect of being human. Simply put, spiritual direction is helping people tell their sacred stories everyday.
Spiritual direction has emerged in many contexts using language specific to particular cultural and spiritual traditions. Describing spiritual direction requires putting words to a process of fostering a transcendent experience that lies beyond all names and yet the experience longs to be articulated and made concrete in everyday living. It is easier to describe what spiritual direction does than what spiritual direction is. Our role is not to define spiritual direction, but to describe the experience.
Spiritual direction helps us learn how to live in peace, with compassion, promoting justice, as humble servants of that which lies beyond all names."
Liz Budd Ellmann, MDiv, former Executive Director, Spiritual Directors International
Follow the links below for descriptions of spiritual direction in various spiritual traditions:
- What is Buddhist spiritual direction?
- What is Christian spiritual direction?
- What is Eastern-philosophy spiritual direction?
- What is Islamic spiritual direction?
- What is Jewish spiritual direction?
What Spiritual Direction Is Not
Spiritual direction is not counseling.
Spiritual direction is not therapy.
Spiritual direction is not financial advice.
Like psychotherapy, it is often offered as a one-to-one or group experience in private sessions with spiritual mentors who have most likely completed extensive formation for the ministry and service of spiritual direction.
It is up to you to choose a spiritual director who has the training, formation and experience that suits your needs. Spiritual direction includes your deity or higher power as a third partner in the process.
While it may be appropriate at times to discuss personal and relational struggles in the context of spiritual direction, a spiritual director is not a psychotherapist, nor does the spiritual director provide such services. Similarly, you may discuss financial issues in spiritual direction, but a spiritual director does not offer financial advice and any decisions and actions you may take in that regard are done without advice or recommendation, and are purely your responsibility.
More Thoughts on Spiritual Direction
If you offer spiritual direction in one of the above spiritual traditions or a different spiritual tradition, we invite you to submit a description of spiritual direction from your tradition's perspective to be reviewed for inclusion on the website.
E-mail descriptions of spiritual direction, along with your name, spiritual tradition, and country of residence to firstname.lastname@example.org.
"Spiritual direction is the contemplative practice of helping another person or group to awaken to the mystery called God in all of life, and to respond to that discovery in a growing relationship of freedom and commitment."
James Keegan, SJ, Roman Catholic, USA, on behalf of the 2005 Coordinating Council of Spiritual Directors International
"Spiritual direction is a time-honored term for a conversation, ordinarily between two persons, in which one person consults another, more spiritually experienced person about the ways in which God may be touching her or his life, directly or indirectly. In our postmodern age, many people dislike the term 'spiritual direction' because it sounds like one person giving directions, or orders, to another. They prefer 'spiritual companionship,' 'tending the holy,' or some other nomenclature. What we call it doesn't make any real difference. The reality remains conversations about life in the light of faith. There was much to talk about, to sort out in the light of faith in those days when confusion in the Church became a daily reality.
Although spiritual direction has had a burst of new life, it is really quite ancient. Across both the Hebrew and the Christian Scriptures, we find people seeking spiritual counsel. The Queen of Sheba sought out the wisdom of Solomon. Jesus gave us examples in his conversations with Nicodemus, with the woman at the well, in the ongoing formation of Peter and the other disciples. In the early church, people flocked to hermits in the desert for spiritual counsel. Across the centuries we find striking examples in some Irish monks, in some German Benedictine nuns, in Charles de Foucault, Teresa of Avila, John of the Cross, Francis de Sales, and others. Today, spiritual directors come from many traditions …"
Marian Cowan, CSJ